Community...Go Get You One!

We were wrapping up a great book club book chat on a book that had caused many of us to ponder our relationships with females in our lives (mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, etc.) As we were closing out the conversation, one lady said she doesn't have sisters so she really feels connected to us. We all appreciated the statement with an "ah!" Someone else said they are not as close to their sister, but certainly got her relationship nurturing by convening with us for our monthly book talks. Again, appreciation was expressed. Once we said our goodbyes, it gave me time to reflect on the conversations and these ladies' comments. A statement in the book we discussed said something to the effect that "family is all we need." While I think family is very important, I also think that it may not always be able to fill our needs when it comes to our daily ups and downs. Our society has changed so much over the years and not all family lives near each other as in the past. We have spread out throughout the country making it a little harder to see each other, engage with one another, etc. Certainly the advancement of technology has provided us with a variety of ways to connect with one another despite distance (and thank goodness as that was quite helpful during the pandemic!), but there is still something to be said for being able to sit across from family or friends and enjoy a meal or a great discussion live and in person.

So how do you go about finding "your people"? Think about your hobbies and interests and seek out events where you can interact with others who are like minded in your interests. Once you feel a safe connection, set up an outing with them. You will be surprised how much there is to do in your city. Once you have several interactions with others, you will see your community grow. I love the quote, "Friends are the family that you choose."—Anonymous In no way am I disregarding the importance of our family. I just know from experience that sometimes you find yourself in a place without family around you, and let's face it, most of us can't do this life alone! It is much more fun in community.

Some ideas on where you can find communities of friends: church groups, online groups, book clubs (neighborhood, work, online, etc.), school association groups, etc. Remember that we can all use a friendly shoulder to lean on when life gets to be a little too much. Reach out and find communities to be a part of when you find yourself needing to connect with others.

I just came back from brunch with a group of friends I've had for 20+ years. It is good to catch up with them and feel a part of a family that supports each other during the good times and the trying times as well.